How to Help

This isn't poetry or flow but it goes with the last four posts. 

"I don't need to hear "God forgives you", or "You need to forgive yourself". That just reinforces the self-blame. I DO need to hear, over and over, as many times as necessary "It wasn't your fault. You didn't deserve that. What he did was wrong." etc.
I don't need to hear any version of "at least", or what to be grateful for, or how others have it worse. That invalidates my pain. I DO need to hear "It's ok to be confused. It's ok to grieve. It's ok to be struggling. It's ok to not be ok. It's ok to take your time. I'm here for you."
I don't need to hear "You're strong" or "you're fine" or "you'll be ok." Because I'm very much NOT right now. I do need to hear "You are brave. You are loved. You have my support. You deserve to heal."